• Life Matters,  Self-Care

    RESILIENCE

    Where does resilience come from? Are we born with it or do we develop it over our lifetime? Certainly, we need resilience to survive the “ups” and “downs” of life. Building resilience enables us to bounce back more quickly and get on with life, even if it just takes us to the next hurdle! It is much more difficult for children to build resilience if they experience abuse while growing up. Children need a loving, nurturing and supportive adult in their life. Similarly, for adults we survive better if we have the love and support of others. If a person is in a domestic violence relationship their resilience is under…

  • Life Matters,  Life Wise Hints

    VALUE

    When I think of the word value there are many ways, I can look at it. At our place when we have tradespeople in, we want them to do a good job, but we also want value for money. It was no more evident last week when we got a quote for a replacement shower screen. We got two quotes. The first one was $2,600 the second one was $750. Then there was the quote from a plumber with no brand names for our selected products! What would we get – an inferior product? I asked if the quote could be updated with product details. Three days later, no news!…

  • Life Day By Day,  Life Wise Hints

    WORDS

    If we did not have words to communicate what would our world look like? Would it look better or worse? Words are all over the place. We read them in books, newspapers, letters, emails, billboards and the list continues. Words  come out of our mouth, sometimes without thinking! We can use words to hurt or we can use words to heal. We are all shaped by words and this begins straight after birth. The words our parents and others say to us can encourage us or discourage us. We can feel loved or unloved. Words matter. As long as words are syncretised with our non-verbal actions. When our words and…

  • Health Matters,  Life Day By Day

    ENGAGEMENT

    When I hear the word engagement my first thought goes to a couple who are planning to marry. However, the word engagement means much more than committing yourself to another in marriage. I am sure you would agree? We can be engaged in work, play, an activity, enjoyable or mundane. However, when we are “fully engaged” in what we are doing other things become unimportant. We are totally in the “zone”. Concentrating solely and fully on the task at hand enables us to shut out other things happening around us. It is extremely important for those who trim trees! When I am fully engaged in an activity I wonder where…

  • Life Matters

    DEATH

    You may wonder why I am writing on the topic of death? It is a continuation of where I left off on my last subject of “Limitations”. The quote from Pope Paul V1 reminds us that we should think about death because it helps us live a full life, a life without limitations. As the quote said: Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows. Death is not a conversation topic that…

  • Life Day By Day,  Life Wise Hints

    LIMITATIONS

    I have been thinking about limitations and have asked the question – am I holding myself back? Do I put limitations on myself, what I can do, what I can achieve? As we get older and enter the retirement phase of life, it is time to re-evaluate our purpose and place in the world. By the world I mean, in relationships and community. If I see myself as “getting older” and no longer having as much value, I am limiting myself. This is the first limitation. Defining ourselves by age limits our potential. As we know a 60-year-old can look and behave older and a 70-year-old can look and behave…

  • Life Day By Day,  Life Matters

    SMART

    I am still finalising my goals for 2019 and to do this I am using the SMART model. Even though I am working on my “B” year – for example, one of my goals is “I will B healthy in 2019”. But what does that mean and how will I achieve the goal? This year I am not making any New Year’s resolutions. I am replacing these with goal setting. Not just any ordinary goal-setting but identifying specific and action-oriented goals. Goal setting is nothing new to businesses and organisations but not everyone sets personal goals. Some of us may have random ideas about what we want to achieve but…

  • Life Day By Day,  Life Matters

    DREAMING

    It is the start of another year and time for dreaming. It is good to day-dream and temporarily detach from what is happening around us, the mundane, the routine of life! Dreaming puts us in the shoes of a conductor as we go about orchestrating our life. But is it as simple as dreaming about it? Dreaming, including day-dreaming can be good for us. As long as we don’t spend too much time day-dreaming and then not do anything productive. Otherwise it becomes maladaptive dreaming – it does not do us any good. I have been dreaming about how I will live in 2019. My dreaming time is when I…

  • Life Day By Day,  Life Matters

    Labels

    Travelling somewhere? It is the time of the year when people all over the world are travelling and placing labels on their suitcases. What type of luggage labels do you have? Are they easily recognisable? Is it colourful? Does it say something about you? Product labels We would not recognise any products unless they were properly labeled. The product label not only tells us about it, but it is used to promote the product, to make us reach for it from the supermarket or shop shelve. Then there are the labels on clothing, it tells us all about the item and it will also have a tag attached giving you…

  • Life Day By Day

    Expectations

    It is that time of the year when we are full of expectations. Do you have any expectations now that Christmas Day is just around the corner? Expectations of yourself or others? At this time of the year many of us all of a sudden have expectations! We expect certain things from family members and friends and they expect certain things from us. We expect that special gift, the one we have been waiting for all year! Therefore, it is good to take “time out” to give ourselves some thinking time, to work out what others expect of us and work out whether we can meet their expectations? However, it…