• Life Matters,  Self-Care

    Healing the Broken-hearted

    The need for healing of the broken-hearted is no more evident than what was seen this week on national television in Australia. The broken-hearted who have suffered sexual abuse at the hands of the church. This week the Catholic Church was in the spotlight. Yet, there are other churches, other denominations where countless others have been sexually abused. Sadly, this is the insidious culture of evil in our community, in the churches, that preys on vulnerable children and adults. Just recently I read the book ‘Blood on the Rosary’ by Sue Smethurst and Margaret Harrod. It is Margaret’s story of her childhood, of the sexual abuse by her father. To…

  • Life Day By Day,  Life Matters

    12 Rules for Living

    My topic this time has more than ONE word! But as I always say, “If I make the rules, I can break the rules”! Now and again I will have a topic with ONE word, but for now I might leave it behind for a while. If you are familiar with “12 Rules for Living” the name Jordan Peterson will mean something to you. Jordan is a clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at the University of Toronto. I have listened to one of his interviews and he is a very commanding speaker. Right now, Jordan is on his “12 Rules for Life” speaking tour across Australia. I can’t make…

  • Life Matters,  Self-Care

    RESILIENCE

    Where does resilience come from? Are we born with it or do we develop it over our lifetime? Certainly, we need resilience to survive the “ups” and “downs” of life. Building resilience enables us to bounce back more quickly and get on with life, even if it just takes us to the next hurdle! It is much more difficult for children to build resilience if they experience abuse while growing up. Children need a loving, nurturing and supportive adult in their life. Similarly, for adults we survive better if we have the love and support of others. If a person is in a domestic violence relationship their resilience is under…

  • Life Matters,  Life Wise Hints

    VALUE

    When I think of the word value there are many ways, I can look at it. At our place when we have tradespeople in, we want them to do a good job, but we also want value for money. It was no more evident last week when we got a quote for a replacement shower screen. We got two quotes. The first one was $2,600 the second one was $750. Then there was the quote from a plumber with no brand names for our selected products! What would we get – an inferior product? I asked if the quote could be updated with product details. Three days later, no news!…

  • Life Matters

    DEATH

    You may wonder why I am writing on the topic of death? It is a continuation of where I left off on my last subject of “Limitations”. The quote from Pope Paul V1 reminds us that we should think about death because it helps us live a full life, a life without limitations. As the quote said: Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows. Death is not a conversation topic that…

  • Life Day By Day,  Life Matters

    SMART

    I am still finalising my goals for 2019 and to do this I am using the SMART model. Even though I am working on my “B” year – for example, one of my goals is “I will B healthy in 2019”. But what does that mean and how will I achieve the goal? This year I am not making any New Year’s resolutions. I am replacing these with goal setting. Not just any ordinary goal-setting but identifying specific and action-oriented goals. Goal setting is nothing new to businesses and organisations but not everyone sets personal goals. Some of us may have random ideas about what we want to achieve but…

  • Life Day By Day,  Life Matters

    DREAMING

    It is the start of another year and time for dreaming. It is good to day-dream and temporarily detach from what is happening around us, the mundane, the routine of life! Dreaming puts us in the shoes of a conductor as we go about orchestrating our life. But is it as simple as dreaming about it? Dreaming, including day-dreaming can be good for us. As long as we don’t spend too much time day-dreaming and then not do anything productive. Otherwise it becomes maladaptive dreaming – it does not do us any good. I have been dreaming about how I will live in 2019. My dreaming time is when I…

  • Life Day By Day,  Life Matters

    Labels

    Travelling somewhere? It is the time of the year when people all over the world are travelling and placing labels on their suitcases. What type of luggage labels do you have? Are they easily recognisable? Is it colourful? Does it say something about you? Product labels We would not recognise any products unless they were properly labeled. The product label not only tells us about it, but it is used to promote the product, to make us reach for it from the supermarket or shop shelve. Then there are the labels on clothing, it tells us all about the item and it will also have a tag attached giving you…

  • Life Matters

    Embrace me

    I have not been blogging as regularly as usual. The reason is that I have been attending to my mother’s care needs – she is 92 years old. While demanding it has been a privilege to care for her at this time of her life. However, I am not the only one who is caring for my mother I have three sister and a brother, we are sharing the care. But as the paperwork Queen (a title given to me by my sister) my time has been very occupied! A few weeks ago, my mother phoned me on a Sunday asking me to keep in touch with her throughout the…

  • Life Matters,  Life Wise Hints

    Happiness and ageing

    Does happiness and ageing go together? Is everyone who is ageing – happy? Most developed countries have accepted the age of 65 years as getting older or “elderly”. If you, like me “just” over 65 years old you are a senior, an older person or elderly! Whatever your age, everyone is growing older at the same daily rate. It is just that the person who is 20 years younger than me will never catch up to me. I like it that way – giving all the younger people the challenge of catching up! Is someone 20 years younger than me, happier than me? What does make us happy as we…