• Life Matters

    A walk amongst the roses

    A walk amongst the roses in our garden tells me something about life. You can brush up against some roses and all you experience is their beauty and their fragrance. With other roses you have to be careful as you may get hurt by their thorns! A quote by Pablo Picasso is a good way to look at the world. It says, ‘You can complain because roses have thorns or you can rejoice because thorns have roses’. Even some people who are a little abrasive have other attributes that can endear us. We just have to look past the thorns, handle them with care in order to see the beauty…

  • Life Matters

    Hands

    Hands tell a story about the person. This is why so many artists like to include the hands of the person in their work. Hands are unique, just like the person. Take a look at your hands and then look at others. How are they alike and how are they different? Every healthy hand has four fingers and a thumb. It is our hands that enabled us to make our way in the world. We took our first step by hanging on to a piece of furniture while we learnt to walk. Our hands helped us do things as simple as buttoning a shirt to putting on a sock or…

  • Life Matters

    A Daughter’s Reflection

    On the 8th April I wrote on the subject title ‘Living to die’ and now I am writing a daughter’s reflection on the passing of my mother, Valma Jean, on 13th April 2019. My mother was 92 years old. On my last post I wrote about my sister Christine and I spending time with our mother, 9-12 hours a day. We did this not because it was our duty but because we loved our mother. My other siblings, Trish, Debbie and Michael also spent time with our mother in between work and family commitments. Christine and I concluded by Wednesday 10th April that our mother was in the active phase…

  • Life Matters

    Living to die

    Living is such an important part of our lives, but do we think for a moment we are living to die? We do all the regular things, the things we are familiar with, birth, growing up, partners, starting a family and so the cycle goes on. We are born and we to continue living until we die. Death is an event that none of us can escape. You may be the worlds smartest person, the worlds richest person but you are living to die! My intention is not to sound morbid, but once again I may be touching on a subject that many or most want to ignore. That is,…

  • Life Day By Day,  Life Matters

    Standing in solidarity with New Zealanders

    Last Saturday 16th March 2019 I put on my paua shell ring and in doing so I was standing in solidarity with all New Zealanders. This act of standing in solidarity with New Zealanders followed the abhorrent attack on two mosques by a white supremacist, a citizen of Australia, living in New Zealand. The day before, Friday 15th March, fifty people were killed, and many were injured. This act of violence in a community, in a place of worship, should not happen. It is a place where people should feel safe. Earlier in the week I was preparing for an interstate holiday. In deciding which jewellery to take, I came…

  • Life Matters,  Self-Care

    Healing the Broken-hearted

    The need for healing of the broken-hearted is no more evident than what was seen this week on national television in Australia. The broken-hearted who have suffered sexual abuse at the hands of the church. This week the Catholic Church was in the spotlight. Yet, there are other churches, other denominations where countless others have been sexually abused. Sadly, this is the insidious culture of evil in our community, in the churches, that preys on vulnerable children and adults. Just recently I read the book ‘Blood on the Rosary’ by Sue Smethurst and Margaret Harrod. It is Margaret’s story of her childhood, of the sexual abuse by her father. To…

  • Life Day By Day,  Life Matters

    12 Rules for Living

    My topic this time has more than ONE word! But as I always say, “If I make the rules, I can break the rules”! Now and again I will have a topic with ONE word, but for now I might leave it behind for a while. If you are familiar with “12 Rules for Living” the name Jordan Peterson will mean something to you. Jordan is a clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at the University of Toronto. I have listened to one of his interviews and he is a very commanding speaker. Right now, Jordan is on his “12 Rules for Life” speaking tour across Australia. I can’t make…

  • Life Matters,  Self-Care

    RESILIENCE

    Where does resilience come from? Are we born with it or do we develop it over our lifetime? Certainly, we need resilience to survive the “ups” and “downs” of life. Building resilience enables us to bounce back more quickly and get on with life, even if it just takes us to the next hurdle! It is much more difficult for children to build resilience if they experience abuse while growing up. Children need a loving, nurturing and supportive adult in their life. Similarly, for adults we survive better if we have the love and support of others. If a person is in a domestic violence relationship their resilience is under…

  • Life Matters,  Life Wise Hints

    VALUE

    When I think of the word value there are many ways, I can look at it. At our place when we have tradespeople in, we want them to do a good job, but we also want value for money. It was no more evident last week when we got a quote for a replacement shower screen. We got two quotes. The first one was $2,600 the second one was $750. Then there was the quote from a plumber with no brand names for our selected products! What would we get – an inferior product? I asked if the quote could be updated with product details. Three days later, no news!…

  • Life Matters

    DEATH

    You may wonder why I am writing on the topic of death? It is a continuation of where I left off on my last subject of “Limitations”. The quote from Pope Paul V1 reminds us that we should think about death because it helps us live a full life, a life without limitations. As the quote said: Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows. Death is not a conversation topic that…