Everyone these days seems to be talking about decluttering our home but what about decluttering our mind? This got me thinking about whether or not I was doing a good job of mind decluttering. Am I filling up my mind with mindless thoughts? What am I allowing into my mind? What stays in my mind and what should I be getting rid of?
I came to the realisation that the first step in decluttering my mind is to STOP negative emotions and events of the past dominating my thoughts. While there have been circumstances in my life in the past that have caused disappointment and disillusionment there is nothing I can do about it. If we regurgitate the past it takes us back into the past to relive the events all over again. This will only pull us down, not lift us up. So I have to be mindful that if I clutter up my mind with negative thoughts and what could have been I am robbing myself of the best for now and the future. Yet, I can learn from the past and take the lessons I have been taught into the future. In doing so I have to make a conscious decision to declutter my mind and leave the past where it belongs – behind me.
Now is the time to place myself in the “here and now”. I can no longer influence the past only the present. The decisions I make now will shape my destiny for my future. It is solely my responsibility. That is why it is so empowering when we set goals and priorities based on what is happening in our lives at this moment in time, as well as our hopes and dreams for the future. Taking these steps is an enabler. It enables me to live a life with purpose. No dwelling on the past or blaming myself for what happened. It is time to let go of regret, worry, guilt and fear. The past is gone as we cannot influence it or change it.
I am not the person I was 5 years ago or 20 years ago and that is okay. I have to accept the person I have become and so do others. Our experiences of life change us and it is up to me to make sure they change me for the better. Have you ever met a person who has become bitter because of life’s circumstances? Allowing resentment to creep into our minds is very toxic. If we continue to be resentful and angry about the past it can create hardness around the heart and the mind can become entrapped and cluttered with persecutory thoughts. This type of thinking can inhibit us from believing in ourselves, believing in our aspirations, so we can live a life of purpose and reach our full potential. Decluttering the mind, being focused about our goals…leads to priorities with purpose!
Now that I am in my retirement years I believe it is important that I don’t drift along without direction and allow my mind to wander from one thing to the other without any purpose. There is a tendency for me to do this at present – so it is time for change! I have to take time out to be still and discover the purpose for the rest of my life. I am about to set new goals and priorities. At the same time outline how I will achieve my goals and how I will celebrate my success. I am going to do this using the 5 Ws and 1 H (who, what, why, when, where and how). This will surely get me on the right track! Maybe you would also like to engage with the questions I am setting myself.
- Who is important to me? Who do I enjoy spending time with? Who will gain from what I am doing? Who inspires me?
- What do I enjoy doing? What are my strengths? What am I passionate about? What makes me laugh? What do I want to achieve with the rest of my life?
- Why do I need to set goals and priorities for my life? Why do I need to introduce certainty into my life?
- When am I going to start and become more focussed with my goals and priorities? When will I know that I have been successful with my goals and priorities?
- Where do I want to be in life? Where do I want to live? Where are my ideal holiday destinations?
- How will I achieve my goals and priorities? How will I be motivated? How do I want to live my life? How do I want to relate to others? How will my goals and priorities become a reality? How will I celebrate my achievements?
Without goals and priorities I will just drift along with every changing wind. Therefore, I have to invest time in decluttering my mind of the negative and introduce the positive. Only then will I be able to identify a straight and purposeful direction for the rest of my life. I am starting the task now with a walk in the garden to gain inspiration, after I have escorted the Princesses into the Palace and made them secure for the night. The Princesses live such a simple life, they seem happy and content with their purpose i.e. doing their Royal Duty every day (laying an egg) – is there a message there for me?